What is your favourite book and why?
My favourite book would be ‘We are going on a bear hunt’. This is because my son Archie absolutely loves it and every time he hears it he smiles from ear to ear. Seeing his smile makes me one happy mumma!!
Adult book – probably something really corny like Gone Girl. I love reading books that hook me with the drama of it all.
Who inspires you?
Jacinda Ardern – I know that might sound really corny but I think she is an incredible woman and has shown New Zealand and women around the world what the 21 century is all about. She’s kicking butt in so many ways. #teamJacinda
What is something you do for self-care?
I try to run as often as possible. I find this is so good for me physically and mentally. Running helps me clear my head of any unwanted thoughts, and also puts me in such a good space afterwards.
Mentally, what do you battle with most?
Probably my sensitivity. I find myself over thinking a lot (that’s why running really helps me). I struggle to not take things to heart. Someone could make a comment that isn’t directed at me, but I over analyse it a lot and sometimes turn it into something that it’s not. This can make me feel very insecure at times. I’m constantly working on this. Definitely learning to build resilience and to let things go. People often make comments out of their own insecurities.
What are you most insecure about?
I am really insecure about my body, especially my tummy. I have had a few people congratulate me on my pregnancy – which is quite upsetting. It seriously sucks. I need to be more comfortable in my own skin. Seeing woman of all shapes and sizes on the beach in their bikinis and rocking it makes me feel empowered, and aware that I need to be confident and accept who I am. I’m working on this.
What has been your biggest lesson?
I feel like I have only just figured this out recently - my biggest lesson would be, choosing people you want to spend time with and that make you feel good. You don’t need tonnes of friends to be happy. Some people you may have been close with once upon a time, may have changed over time, or may not be someone you align with anymore. I feel like you should only spend time with those who make you feel uplifted. Life is too short to spend with people who don’t support you.
What do you dream of?
I dream of living in a Spanish speaking country (Argentina probably) enjoying a simple life in the country with my family. Eating amazing steak and drinking red wine J
If you could go back, what would you tell your younger self?
Travel as much as you can. Work is something we will do for the rest of our lives. Travel and exploring the world is the best thing ever and life is far too short to sit and wonder what is out there.
What brings you happiness?
I feel so happy when my family and friends are happy. When everyone is in a good space.
If you had a dinner party and could invite anyone, who would it be? And why?
Well of course I would have to invite Jacinda Ardern. I think she is so down to earth; she’d actually enjoy a dinner party at mine. Haha. She would be so interesting to talk to, and have amazing stories and ideas for the future.
Close your eyes. Let your mind drift away to your happy place. Where is it and what are you doing?
Scuba Diving in the warm tropical seas of Asia.
Hardest moment of your life so far?
Teenage years – that was one big struggle for me. This is pretty hard to say, but I feel it is so common, which is so so sad, but at the age of 13 I was sexually assaulted. This really affected me and it took me years to put what had happened behind me. I struggled for such a long time and in all honesty went off the rails a bit. Very much understandable now I look back on it. I guess I will never forget and forgive, but I have somehow learnt to just live with it. This experience not only affected me, but also my friends and family. It has hugely affected my self-esteem, to this day. We need to be ok to share things like this, so we can support one another. For me, sharing what happened helps me, as I can hear other people’s stories and to be reassured that it was not my fault. This is so tough to share – but I am sure it’s a reality for so many women.
What is your favourite part of your body and why?
This is good question, something I obviously don’t think about enough, and should. I would say my favourite body part would be my legs. I think I like them because they are probably the most toned part of my body.
If money and time weren’t an issue what would you do?
Travel and work in different countries. I also really want to learn Spanish, so I would volunteer somewhere in South America and learn Spanish.
What do you wish you knew more about?
I wish I knew how to play a musical instrument J Such a cool skill to have! Like playing the piano – amazing!
What is your favourite Summer drink?
I love a glass of Rose.
On a warm day, blue sky, sipping on a cold glass of Rose – this is the best.
What was the last photo you took with your phone?
A bridesmaid hair idea for Ash’s wedding… so exciting.
Do you think Women are too hard on each other? If so why?
Yes, definitely too hard. I am a fairly new mum (Archie is 20 months old) and I feel like the judgement on each other and pressure on how well we are doing is just insane! I don’t understand why women don’t support each other more, and why women have to ‘appear’ like everything is perfect. Maybe it is social media, and the way people ‘appear’ like they are kicking butt at life. We need to be kinder to each other and be honest about our lives and how we feel. When you are having a down day and struggling within yourself, hearing that you are not alone is so refreshing and often helps!
We don’t allow ourselves to open up and be honest most of the time. I’m lucky because I have some pretty incredible friends who make me feel so comfortable in talking to them – Ash is a HUGE part of my life and uplifts me all the time.
Why are we so hard on ourselves?
Seriously I think social media has a huge part to play in this. I have recently deleted Facebook and Instagram off my phone. I struggle to read posts and pictures that people put up that just aren’t real. We compare ourselves to others, but most of the time we are comparing ourselves to the social media world. This isn’t realistic. I am so ready to focus on my own world, my family and friends, and what makes me happy.
Who is the Seer & Wilde customer to you?
Women who care about each other and the people in the world. People who want to see a change for generations to come.