Ladies, we are allies, not enemies.

I think about this all the time. Every time I turn on the TV, or open a magazine there is a heading that resembles something like “Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton at war” and every actress is feuding with her female co-star blah blah blah.

The media create this stigma that women don’t work well together. It’s bullshit.

Since starting Seer & Wilde I have met so many incredible women. All strong, independent women, paving their way to success. Some women I have only met through Social media, but they have played a vital role in the current success of Seer & Wilde. I have made the most amazing friendships and count myself so lucky to be surrounded by so many incredible women. And guess what? We all support one another. We post about each other, and share each other’s work. So this myth that women can’t work together is being squashed right now.

Refuse to let this culture define your relationships with other women.

By focussing on the drama, we lose sight of the good stuff that’s happening. Instead of banding together we are constantly being pitted against one another.

Want to know a secret? I truly believe “the powers that be” want us divided because they are afraid of what will happen if we unite. Can you just take a second to soak that in and think about what that might look like? If all women supported, encouraged and stood up for one another? I honestly think we would be unstoppable. We would change the world.

I don’t know when we started to feel like it was a competition between one another. We are all so uniquely different. All beautiful in our own way. All offering something special.

I think women can be so critical of each other’s decisions and choices. You need to understand that you don’t always have to agree with people’s choices and that it’s also none of your business. We are all just trying to do the best we can with what we have.

Women are already battling the social pressures of how to look, how to act, how to dress, how to be the best mother, the best wife. Let’s not battle each other at the same time.

Support your sisters. Defend them and love them unconditionally without judgement.

To live a full life, you need women around you. My besties are my soul sisters. You have to find a tribe that always supports you and outside of that inner tribe are still a bunch of incredible women that will bring so much value into your life.

Please take a minute to appreciate all the women in your life and please make a conscious effort to be kinder to one another.

 “There is enough room for all women to be whole without tearing each other down” @florencegiven.

Women are your sisters, let’s move forward with kindness.

Ash xx